Okay, so I will just warn you that this will be a bit of a rant. Okay? Okay. The title is also kinda misleading (but not really – although it may only make sense in my head) but I wrote it for the draft and I thought this was going somewhere else 😉
Why can’t we be happy for others? Why do we have to measure up against our friends and family and be mad that they dare to be happy about their lives?
“Urgh, they are just broadcasting their happiness and surplus of energy. Urgh, those bloggers that just get free stuff, why don’t I get free stuff?! Urgh, my cousin is fucking baking again, calm down and buy fucking wonder bread like the rest of us (nice American reference there, don’t ya think?)”
I don’t get it. Or I do. If you are wondering how people have time to make those perfect lunch boxes or time to do this perfect makeup every day or something like that, or how a person with the same pay as you can afford a lot of dresses – yes, that may seem totally unfair. But I can assure you that it is mostly about priorities. Or different personalities. Maybe you are a lot more meticulous than they are, so a job well done for you takes longer than for them. Maybe they chose not to have kids and therefore can afford more than people with kids. Maybe the skinny girl actually does eat junk food every day and just doesn’t gain weight because her metabolism is super high. Maybe maybe maybe. The point is that you can’t measure yourself against others because we have different strenghts and values. We come from different places.
And I get it – I’m a mediocre blogger (no, it’s okay, you don’t have to contradict me, I don’t have a problem with it because it’s my choice to not spend more time on it) and I see these amazing bloggers work with so many amazing brands and even having dresses named after them – but I don’t get jealous. I don’t think “that should be me”. It shouldn’t! They worked so hard for that! An effort I didn’t make. They deserve it. I chose to be inspired instead. To do better. Or if not that to be happy for the people I know, even if only on the Internet, that do really well for themselves.
And you may then say: But why only put on the good stuff on social media? Well, why not? Why not be happy and proud of your life? You did that! Whether it’s baking a brilliant cake, making those awesome lunches for your kid or dressing nicely every day, you are allowed to feel good about that. You did that. There is no rule that you have to show the bad stuff in your life as well. And there is certainly no reason to think that the people with the perfect lives have perfect lives. But when you are in excess, when you have that surplus of energy that is also when you have the energy to post stuff on social media.
Shoes – Bait Footwear
We are all just ordinary people but we all have things to be thankful for or to be happy about. Achievements to be proud of. It may be your makeup, your kids, your job – it doesn’t matter what it is. If your’re proud of it, then it matters. And it should matter to the people in your life.
Never feel bad about what you decide to share with the world. It is your choice and you have nothing to do with other peoples misery.